“Three things in human life are important: the primary is to be kind; the second is to be kind, and therefore the third is to be kind.”
Henry James
“Nobody can return and begin a replacement beginning, but anyone can start today and make a replacement ending.”
Maria Robinson
You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up. It's one of my absolute favorite topics and one that I have created my most popular program around in The Self-Esteem Course.
But it's also one thing that's often neglected or something some may feel guilty about doing.
To make a positive change thereupon simply start a replacement habit today. One of kindness and love towards yourself.
You can find 10 of my favorites among such habits in this article.
1. Invest in yourself.
Spend 15-30 minutes within the morning or evening with reading, taking note of or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to know yourself and therefore the world or that helps you to live a better life.
Then, if possible, take one small action on what you've got learned.
2. Find the reality and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks.
Your inner critic may not always say nice things about you. People around you'll attack you or attempt to bring you right down to serve one among their own needs.
If you or somebody else does this, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this though?
This is very effective to vary your train of thoughts, to seek out the reality and to not get down on yourself.
For example, if you or someone says that you simply aren't doing an honest job in class then you'll ask the question and find answers that tell you that isn’t true.
If you question the attack and look for the exception you may, for instance, see that you are doing a good job in most of your courses, but maybe a bit unfocused and lazy in math and geography.
3. Unstress tonight.
Take an extended bath and skim something to flee. Or work out. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out. Or express yourself and your creativity in some way via your website.
Set aside a half-hour or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.
4. Take just 2 minutes within the morning or evening to understand yourself.
Create a kinder and more balanced self-image by making it a fast and daily habit to understand yourself.
Here's what you do:
Sit down with a journal on your smartphone, computer or in paper form. Ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself?
It might be that you simply are an honest listener or do well together with your hobby immediately. Or that you simply have a love for animals, people or music.
It doesn't have to be big things either.
The important thing is to understand yourself both for the small things and therefore the belongings you may deem granted and not only for reaching an enormous milestone once in a while.
5. Mediocre day? Take one small step forward towards something positive.
If your day feels mediocre or simply kind of depressing then take one small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day and week.
Book or research a visit you would like to require.
Set up dinner or a cup of coffee with a good friend.
Look into how you can grow in your career to get new and exciting stuff to do.
Try a new hobby.
6. Be kinder toward others.
The way you think that that about and treat others is usually the way you think about and treat yourself. So choose to be kinder towards others too, over time, become kinder and more understanding towards yourself.
For example:
Let someone into your lane while driving.
Encourage a friend or a family member when they are uncertain or unmotivated.
Just be there and listen as you let someone vent.
7. If you stumble, be your own best friend.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me during this situation?
And then do things and ask yourself as he or she would.
And remember to ask yourself what you can learn from your stumble and if there is an opportunity in this situation. Then take that new knowledge you gain and move forward once more.
8. Take laugh-break.
Take 5-10 minutes in the middle of your day or if that is not possible then use your morning or evening.
Use your smartphone, computer or TV and watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom, read a funny book or comic or listen to a podcast you know makes you laugh.
I find it to be one of the foremost effective things I can do to recharge my energy and optimism and to release inner tensions.
9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change.
Don’t grind to a halt in thought loops that just go round and round about what you'll have done or what went wrong.
Think about what you want for the rest of your life instead
Better health?
A great relationship?
New challenges in your career?
Now, what are a few small steps you can take towards that goal?
Take one of those steps today.
10. Simply remind yourself of why it's smart to be kind to yourself.
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real-life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness, more positive relationships with yourself and with other people it becomes easier to remain kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs.
Henry James
“Nobody can return and begin a replacement beginning, but anyone can start today and make a replacement ending.”
Maria Robinson
You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up. It's one of my absolute favorite topics and one that I have created my most popular program around in The Self-Esteem Course.
But it's also one thing that's often neglected or something some may feel guilty about doing.
To make a positive change thereupon simply start a replacement habit today. One of kindness and love towards yourself.
You can find 10 of my favorites among such habits in this article.
1. Invest in yourself.
Spend 15-30 minutes within the morning or evening with reading, taking note of or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to know yourself and therefore the world or that helps you to live a better life.
Then, if possible, take one small action on what you've got learned.
2. Find the reality and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks.
Your inner critic may not always say nice things about you. People around you'll attack you or attempt to bring you right down to serve one among their own needs.
If you or somebody else does this, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this though?
This is very effective to vary your train of thoughts, to seek out the reality and to not get down on yourself.
For example, if you or someone says that you simply aren't doing an honest job in class then you'll ask the question and find answers that tell you that isn’t true.
If you question the attack and look for the exception you may, for instance, see that you are doing a good job in most of your courses, but maybe a bit unfocused and lazy in math and geography.
3. Unstress tonight.
Take an extended bath and skim something to flee. Or work out. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out. Or express yourself and your creativity in some way via your website.
Set aside a half-hour or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.
4. Take just 2 minutes within the morning or evening to understand yourself.
Create a kinder and more balanced self-image by making it a fast and daily habit to understand yourself.
Here's what you do:
Sit down with a journal on your smartphone, computer or in paper form. Ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself?
It might be that you simply are an honest listener or do well together with your hobby immediately. Or that you simply have a love for animals, people or music.
It doesn't have to be big things either.
The important thing is to understand yourself both for the small things and therefore the belongings you may deem granted and not only for reaching an enormous milestone once in a while.
5. Mediocre day? Take one small step forward towards something positive.
If your day feels mediocre or simply kind of depressing then take one small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day and week.
Book or research a visit you would like to require.Set up dinner or a cup of coffee with a good friend.
Look into how you can grow in your career to get new and exciting stuff to do.
Try a new hobby.
6. Be kinder toward others.
The way you think that that about and treat others is usually the way you think about and treat yourself. So choose to be kinder towards others too, over time, become kinder and more understanding towards yourself.
For example:
Let someone into your lane while driving.
Encourage a friend or a family member when they are uncertain or unmotivated.
Just be there and listen as you let someone vent.
7. If you stumble, be your own best friend.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me during this situation?
And then do things and ask yourself as he or she would.
And remember to ask yourself what you can learn from your stumble and if there is an opportunity in this situation. Then take that new knowledge you gain and move forward once more.
8. Take laugh-break.
Take 5-10 minutes in the middle of your day or if that is not possible then use your morning or evening.
Use your smartphone, computer or TV and watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom, read a funny book or comic or listen to a podcast you know makes you laugh.
I find it to be one of the foremost effective things I can do to recharge my energy and optimism and to release inner tensions.
9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change.
Don’t grind to a halt in thought loops that just go round and round about what you'll have done or what went wrong.
Think about what you want for the rest of your life instead
Better health?
A great relationship?
New challenges in your career?
Now, what are a few small steps you can take towards that goal?
Take one of those steps today.
10. Simply remind yourself of why it's smart to be kind to yourself.By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real-life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness, more positive relationships with yourself and with other people it becomes easier to remain kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs.
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